Gender: Silver-haired Male
Status: Senior Citizen
Demeanor: Humorous, kind, bossy, often crabby (not in that order).
My dear father recently shared with me that a representative from Publishers Clearing House was on their way over to hand-deliver a $500,000 check that he had won. I thought, “Reality check…did he really just say that to me or was I having a dream about that sort of depressing movie ‘Nebraska’?”
“Um…dad, this guy has our address?” “Yes, but he probably won’t come,” he said disappointedly. I thought to myself, “Ya think?” I gently shared with him to not take those kinds of calls anymore. “Please, please (said a little less gently) look at the caller ID before picking up the phone. If it’s not family, friends or your doctor’s office, it is most likely a scammer or at least someone without your best interests in mind.”
With a sheepish grin on his Santa-like face, “Well, it can’t hurt to dream a little, right?” Wow, he really thought maybe, just maybe, he would be $500,000 richer by sundown. I was caught between crying and laughing. What I saw with my father was the innocence of a child combined with the restlessness of a man long since retired.
As you can probably guess, my dad didn’t get richer that day…but I did. Simply by being able to share a disappointment and a laugh with my dad. For that I am grateful.
If you have an “older” person in your life, make a point to hug them more, reach out over the phone or pray deeply for them. (Consider doing the trifecta!) Remember, just because they are older, doesn’t mean they are done. There is much to be learned from our elders and our relationships with them are crucial. Don’t we all want to feel loved and appreciated? Never assume they already know how you feel. Don’t allow the burdens to extinguish your light. Instead, be brightened by the blessings!
“Honor your father and mother, that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” Ephesians 6:2-3
“Do not cast me off in the time of old age; forsake me not when my strength is spent.” Psalm 71:9
“Grow old along with me! The best is yet to be, the last of life, for which the first was made. Our times are in His hand who saith, “A whole I planned, youth shows but half; Trust God: See all, nor be afraid!” Robert Browning
“We must take time to stop and thank the people who make a difference in our lives.” John F. Kennedy
“I never knew the old so & so wanted to be an millionaire. Should have thought of that years ago and worked for it.” Nebraska, the film.