There’s nothing like a good old-fashioned sandwich. My childhood favorites; the classic PB&J, grilled cheese, ham on Wonder bread, and even the dreaded bologna.
My world expanded when my husband’s father introduced me to the offerings of a New York Deli in Brooklyn. In addition to a larger than life stack of delicious mouthwatering cold cuts, you get the smells of giant barrels of pickles and the attitude of Vinny or Joey whose job is to make you a great sandwich, not make friends “wit’ choo.” They know you will come back. Call it a hoagie, a grinder, or a sub; they all lead to the same thing…a food coma or an afternoon nap!
Today there is a new sandwich in many of our lives. One slice of bread is our children and the other slice is our aging parents. Both need care, feeding, love, understanding and guidance from the ‘real’ meat in between. You. You hold the reigns with one horse running north and the other south. The responsibilities and double duty decisions make caring for an infant… child’s play. School activities and doctor appointments. Stridex and RX. Uniforms and warm pajamas. Boxers and Depends. Another 2 gallons of milk and never, ever, run out of prune juice! Both sides… emotionally charged as they try to understand their unique position in the family and in the world. One side is looking for direction but seeking independence. The other, looking for direction while confounded by declining health and the loss of independence.
Like a good sandwich, this leaves you needing a nap and exhausted. But in the challenge is also opportunity and blessing. I think of the lyrics from the Abba song in “Mama Mia” and task myself to remember to find the beauty of the moment.
Slipping through my fingers all the time
I try to capture every minute
The feeling in it
Slipping through my fingers all the time…
If you find yourself sandwiched, remember you are not alone. As believers in the living God, we are plugged into the ultimate power source for care and strength. We have a God who wants to direct our paths, add beauty and flavor to our lives and give us the supernatural courage to endure our circumstances. He gives us a support system of family and friends to lift heaviness off our shoulders. Your creator is weaving a tapestry of love from generation to generation that enables you to hold the hand of your loved one as you walk them toward heaven.
This week consider this…we humans can turn sour and stale if we are overburdened or exhausted. Recharge. If you feel unplugged from God, make sure to plug back in. Find the rest in His word. Then, go enjoy that sandwich.
“Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men…” Philippians 2:3-10
“Today will never come again. Be a blessing. Be a friend. Encourage someone. Take time to care. Let your words heal, and not wound.” Anonymous